Pyrénées-Orientales: congratulations in class and humiliation during the break, a father denounces the harassment of his daughter in Cabestany

Humiliated, pushed around, insulted by two classmates, a 12-year-old teenager, educated at Pau Casals University in Cabestany, has just had the worst year of her education. A year of misery through intimidation, denounced by his father, which he said no one wanted to listen to. Except for the psychologist who has been following his child for several months.

The congratulations in progress, the humiliations during the intermission. Faced with the excellent appreciation of her teachers at the Pau Casals de Cabestany college, inexhaustible with praise for the schoolwork of Amina, 12, who is about to finish first in her sixth grade, the teenager testifies her father, suffers from bullying, insults and jostling from two students in his class. “It’s a boy and a girl who were already with my little one at the Claude Simon school in Perpignan. It wasn’t the great friendship between them, Amina was brilliant, but the principal made sure he didn’t, there is no word higher than the other to her”Nassim sees again. Married and father of three other children, he couldn’t imagine at the time the extent to which this disagreement would arise among college-aged schoolchildren.

However, from the start of the sixth year and since all three of them are in the same class and have lunch in the cafeteria, the situation would have quickly deteriorated. “They started by calling my daughter a ‘fat cow’, telling her that we ‘ate fat’ at home, that she wore ‘faux clothes’, that she ‘acted like shit’…”, says the electrician who confides in his daughter. Insults are compounded by threats. “We’ll take you to the ground, make you eat the earth”† Then gestures. “One day they took her wallet and emptied it and threw the money everywhere so that Amina got on her knees to pick up her pennies. Other times“they crowd her on purpose”. The teenager panics, she refuses to go back to university. Nassim is shocked.

My daughter is the best sixth grader in high school, jealousy is the root of the bullying she is subjected to

Yet he finds the strength to reassure his daughter and explain to her that: “life is not always rosy, that we her parents are with her, that we support her and of course we will always protect her by legal means”† At the same time, he calls his attending physician who advises him to have Amina consulted by a psychologist. Medical follow-up was immediately instituted and the teen continues to receive help today. On the school side, the father sends emails to the college, calls the academy inspectorate, before going there. “I was received without any respect, the lady who saw me simply explained to me that it was an interpretation problem of my child”, he smokes, and suddenly decides to go to court. He first filed a handout with the Gendarmerie Bompas and then filed a complaint, as the facts, in his view, “dramatized”

Meanwhile, he requests an audience with the establishment’s CPE. “My mother was a director of a school for 40 years, I also took advice from her”he breathes, before getting a call from the mother of the students in question. “She wanted me to believe it was my daughter who was causing trouble and even told me she had put together a file on me. , takes offense at the father. Finally contacted by the CPE. “She spoke to me as if Amina was a scum and the worst student. In this story, we were never really treated like normal parents, we were considered second-class people, indigenous.”, berates Nassim Soltane who suffers from a deep sense of injustice. The case was dropped without further action.

At the beginning of the next school year, Amina, described by her head teacher as “a driving force for its class”with overall quarterly averages of 19 out of 20, fifth grade will go into the same college in Cabestany. “We cannot afford to pay her for a private establishment and we refuse to place her in Pia where we live. Amina is a studious, intelligent child, always the top of her class and at least here or elsewhere, this arouses jealousy and has victimized him“, laments her father. Hoping that the teenager does not retain a weight or size complex, nor trauma from this harassment he considers “downright wiped out” by national education.

Frédéric Fulgence, academic inspector: “We are following this student’s file, research is underway at Cabestany College”

Frédéric Fulgence, director of academic services for Pyrénées-Orientales, claims to take Amina’s case seriously. †This is a case worthy of being followed, followed primarily by one of our harassment referees, as well as the college team and the CPE (Senior Educational Advisor). We are not in a phenomenon of harassment, perhaps classic if we can say it, with psychological or other danger, but the problem exists and it concerns a student who remains brilliant, who has not stopped these studies because of bullying. †

As always, the Dasen explains, “We are considering the victim, the students who are wandering and we are trying to find out why it has come to this. This work is in progress within the College of Cabestany”assures Frédéric Fulgence and announces that the establishment will be part of a program to fight bullying at school. “There are campaigns every year, but they are repeated in the same way and therefore they lose their intensity. We are replacing them with an awareness system, not only for teachers, but also for all supervisory staff and the general public. In three years’ time, all schools will , all institutions have benefited from this operation, the idea of ​​​​which is to bring forward sentries, more attention to these phenomena, and able to warn so that we do not come to situations like that of this teenager and her parents who feel that they have not been listened to.

Frédéric Fulgence believes in the effectiveness of this new device. “In the phenomenon of harassment there are the harassed, the perpetrator(s) and also the whole group around it, the witnesses. So that’s the audience we need to focus on.

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